Why my New Year’s Resolution is to take more selfies

The Travel Hack Collage.jpg copyI know what you’re thinking. Selfies are one of the most self-absorbed cries for attention possible. Almost every selfie I see on Facebook is accompanied by the hashtag #SelfieWanker in a hopeless attempt to seem like less of a, well, selfie wanker.

But I’m a massive fan of the selfie and in 2015 my resolution is to take more of them.

When I’m travelling I take hundreds, no thousands, of photos of gorgeous landscapes, local people, delicious foods, cultural attractions and stunning sunsets. But I very rarely have any photos of me! There’s no evidence to suggest I was ever there.

As the person who is normally behind the camera I’ve become a little camera shy. I love taking pictures of other people and capturing moments during my travels but I hate seeing myself on camera.

Whenever my boyfriend takes my photo I sneakily delete it at the first opportunity. I then moan there are no photos of me from our holidays and blame his terrible photography skills rather than my sneaky deletes!

But I’ve finally realised it’s time to get over myself.

Who the hell cares if I’m smiling in a weird way or I have a double chin? I think my bum looks fat now but I’m pretty sure that in 20 years time I’ll miss my size 10 bum! When I’m standing on a gorgeous beach, who cares if I have a wobbly arm!? And when I’ve climbed to the top of Everest (which I will do one day!) I definitely won’t be looking like a super model.

When I look back on old photos I don’t notice spots or flabby arms, I see myself having a good time. They bring back long-forgotten memories and my only regrets are not having more of those photos.

It’s almost Christmas and I know it won’t be long before our family photo albums come out to play. They come out every year for us to oooh and ahhh and laugh and point at. The stories behind each photo change ever so slightly as the years go by but we all pretend not to notice because they get funnier and more dramatic each year. We coo over baby photos, laugh at my dad’s abundance of hair, admire how glamorous my mum always looked and pause sadly but fondly over photos of our grandparents.

The albums come to a sad halt when I’m about 13 and my brother is 15. We were suddenly too cool to hang out with our parents and have our photos taken and my mum suddenly refused to be in the same room as a camera. According to the photo albums it’s as though nothing happened during those years when in fact lots of fun stuff happened!

I think I’m getting sentimental as I’ve got my own baby on the way but I want to carry on the tradition of the photo album. I want my baby to see me having fun and travelling the world and I can’t wait for the baby to be included in my selfies. (I currently try to take selfies with my dog and he just doesn’t get it.)

Ugly Frenchie

I don’t just want to capture the moments when I look glamorous at parties or tanned on the beach, I want to capture everything! I want it to be a true account of our lives, not just the highlights.

So from now on I will be the selfie wanker that everyone hates but I don’t care, I’m going to have one hell of a photo album in 10 years time!

If you want to be the ultimate selfie wanker, get yourself a selfie stick. I feel like I should be more embarrassed about admitting my love for the selfie stick but it’s awesome. Get one. You won’t regret it.

Places where it’s not OK to take a selfie

  • The gym – especially if you have a perfect face of make-up on
  • A funeral – did you hear about that trend!?
  • While you’re driving – eyes on the road, people!

Is there anywhere else you’d like to add to the list?

TheTravelHack

Monica is the founder and editor of The Travel Hack. She began the blog in 2009 when she left the UK to travel around Asia and Australia for two years. She's now a professional blogger and has travelled around the world in search of stylish adventure travel. Monica has recently had her second baby and is determined to prove that travelling with a baby is possible!

SHOWHIDE Comments (27)
  1. I’ve very rarely taken a selfie let alone shared one but I have to admit I would love more photos of me on my travels to look back on in years to come but a selfie stick! Can you get them disguised as something else?!! Looking forward to seeing more of your selfies.

  2. This is really surprising as I always think that you are one of the most photogenic bloggers ever! Perhaps you’ll compete with me for the crown of the Selfie King/Queen?

    Have you got a selfie stick? That might help with you 🙂

    Ed

  3. Ha, I’m exactly the same! I always have about 5,000 pictures of cats/dogs abroad, but hardly any of me! It’s so difficult when you’re the one constantly holding the camera as well. Selfie stick MIGHT have to be bought, much as I hate the idea of them 😉 x

  4. Oh he gets it. Look at his face!

    And this is so similar to what I was planning for next year. It’s my last year in my twenties, so I’m going to remember as much as possible. And when I look back in forty years time I’ll moan EXACTLY like my mum does now when she sees a picture of herself on the beach looking skinny and gorgeous.

  5. I was just thinking the exact same thing! I was going through old travel photos and I thought to myself…these could be anyone’s photos! There’s nothing to say that I was actually there. I’m usually on the other side of the camera as well, so there are tons of pics of my husband or my friends, but very few of me.
    I love your commitment to photo albums too – mine come to a screeching halt right around the time that digital photos started to trump one-hour film developing. I found that I never ordered prints of anything! Maybe that’ll be my New Year’s resolution…
    Jessica
    http://www.thebellevoyage.com

  6. Could not agree more. I purchased a selfie stick a few weeks ago and when I told one of my best friends, she laughed and said ‘oh you’re one of THOSE now’. And you know what? Maybe I am. ‘Selfies’ aren’t actually a new concept – I have some great ones I took of myself in Morocco in 2007. But the advancements in technology just make it easier for us to travel solo, and be a part of the images we bring back. Let’s stop worrying about being a wanker, and just create amazing souvenirs of our adventures. We currently associate selfies with tweenies with a trout pout/filter – think it’s time we started making them about independence and wanting to capture a beautiful moment.

  7. Haha this is so funny 😛 I do the same thing, delete photos of myself that I think I look stupid in, then later get sad that there are no photos of me! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with selfies, I think you can actually boost your self-esteem by taking flattering photos of yourself 🙂 (as long as they’re not the only type of photo you ever take)

    Jess

  8. Monica, your selfies/pictures always look lovely!

    I had a moment recently where I actually realised I don’t have many pictures of just myself having a good time in a place… especially London, where I live! I always think not to be self absorbed, and I’m always the one with the camera. But family photo albums are such a nice thing, and when we have everything online, I think it’s a lovely idea to still have albums to crowd around and look at. 🙂

    P.s. oh my god, that selfie of you and your dog is adorable/hilarious!

  9. I feel the same way! I’ve been traveling for the past 10 years and I’ve come to realize that I have way too few photos of me. I almost always travel with my boyfriend and I have so many great photos of him, but there is a serious lack of photos with me in them. Curse my boyfriend for not being as photo happy as I am. I think I need to make the same resolution to take more selfies in 2015. I’d really like to be able to prove that I’ve been to all these amazing places, but more than that I’d like to have something to remind me of my experiences. Love this idea 🙂

  10. I love the honesty here, and I agree it’s more fun to have at least SOME photos with yourself in them from your travels, landscapes are pretty and all but that way everyone could potentially have the exact same photos! Love the selfie with your dog, that face is hysterical!

  11. I completely agree with this! And I completely agree with the places it’s not appropriate to take a selfie (gym ones make me crazy!) but having pictures of yourself equals memories. I’ve learned that even if it’s obnoxious, have someone take your picture in front of every cool sight you see. Why not?

  12. There’s nothing worse than going though old photographs and realising you’re not in any of them. Who cares what anyone else thinks of you – make sure you snap a couple of pictures of yourself on all your travelling adventures!!

  13. Since I travel solo all the time I have no option but to click selfies! I think it’s cool to take your own photos. Most of my selfies turn out better than the ones clicked by others.

  14. Way to go Monica!!! I love this post and the message behind it! So much so I’m joining your new years resolution as well. I think there’s a big difference between the closeup face selfie that never shows where someone is or what they are doing and the picture of one’s self which tells a story. (where they are, the joy they are feeling, etc.) As the person behind the camera in our family, I too have become camera shy so this will be a fun challenge for ’15!

  15. This is a cute post! Some lovely thoughts too. I really dislike taking photos of myself, but then I get to blogging and emailing home, and am like ‘shit, I don’t have any photos of me to post or send home!’

  16. We have the same problem! I’m so glad that at the Christmas market this weekend, we were taking photos and I saw a family trying to take a selfie and offered to do it for them. They were SO grateful! The father then asked if we wanted one, and I almost said no! I don’t like the photos when our backpacks on and looking all tired, but like you said, it’s a memory we’ll appreciate some day!

    http://www.awanderlustforlife.com

  17. Hahahah I remember two years ago I had written a post on how a Selfie Stick was the ultimate “Forever Alone” moment. Fast forward two years and its all the rage and acceptable (I blame Instagram for this).

    I agree with you though, it’s great to have pictures with you in it. I prefer having a full body picture with enough background capture to really feel like you’re capturing the moment, but without having someone there who can help take pictures of you all the time, I guess a selfie stick would just have to do

    1. You were a trend setter! I don’t even think I knew what a selfie was 2 years ago.
      I hate having to ask random people to take my photo. They always crop out my head or it’s wonky or I just end up looking really uncomfortable on the photo.

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