I wrote this post after many requests from new mammas, soon-to-be mammas and people considering being mammas in the very distant future.
“What’s it really like to travel with a baby?’ they’ve been asking. “Come on, tell us the truth!”
So here goes, the good, the bad and the ugly when travelling with a baby – a perfectly title because there’s lots of good, lots of bad and lots of ugly!
Remember that George is now 16 months so technically he’s actually not a baby anymore. But he’s not quite at the age where I can say how wonderful it is to ‘see the world through my child’s eye and experience the wonder with every new experience yadda yadda yadda.’ George gets just as excited about a trip to Aldi as he would about a trip abroad so I think it’s safe to say we’re not quite at that stage.
Babies fly for free
Babies aged two and under fly for free. Yey! That’s got to be the first ‘good’ on the list, right? You also don’t need to pay for them in hotels and if you’re breastfeeding it’s more freeness. Whoop. You do need to pay for their taxes but it’s very little.
Lots of people talk to you
There is no better ice-breaker than a baby. A puppy works just as well, but let’s not get distracted by a long list of cute things that can be used to break the ice.
Wherever you are in the world people will speak to you when you have a baby in your arms. Men, women, children, policemen, business people, waiters, everyone. It doesn’t matter if you speak the same language, they’ll still speak to you.
Travelling with a baby is a great way to chat with local people, meet friends in a bar, get to know people on the beach or when you’re out and about.
A baby forces you to slow down
I initially saw this as a bad thing but being forced to chill out while on holiday can only be a good thing. There might not be an action packed itinerary but there’s plenty of time to relax and soak up the scenery.
Spending time with your baby is awesome
Can’t forget this one! We’re a world filled with busy people and holidays are often one of the rare occasions when we actually relax and spend time with the people we love without rushing off to work or to do chores and one of the million things on your to-do list.
If a holiday brings your family together and makes you spend some quality time together then that can only be a good thing.
It’s a good photo opp
This one probably shouldn’t make the list because no one is going to take a holiday just to get cute photos of their baby on the beach but, come on, it’s nice to have cute photos of your baby on the beach!
These are the photos you’re going to look back on in years to come so make them good ones!
Now we’re getting onto the juicy stuff – because it’s not all cute photos and rosy memories
There’s very little spontaneity
Babies thrive on routines (well at least mine does anyway) which means there’s very little room for spontaneity.
We’ve had many conversations that go like this:
“Shall we pop down to that cool bar for a drink?”
“I’ve just put George down for a nap. Let’s go as soon as he wakes up.”
George finally wakes up 2 hours later.
He’s hungry so has some food.
He makes a huge mess so needs cleaning.
He does a poo so needs changing.
We’re just about to leave and he’s sick so needs a change of clothes.
Three hours later and we finally get to the bar but it’s nearly dinner, bath and bedtime so we have to guzzle our drinks and leave quickly.
You feel the need to pack a lot
I say ‘feel the need’ because you actually don’t need to pack a lot. Every country in the world has babies so every country has shops that sells baby stuff – like nappies and wipes and even your favourite brand of formula. But there will be something in the back of your mind that tells you to pack EVERYTHING. Pack all the things. Everything. Pack for a month when you’re going for a weekend and pack for a year if you’re going for a week.
Even when you know there’s a shop next to your hotel, you’ll still want to pack every item you will possibly need, and then pack a few extra things – just in case. And then pack a few ridiculous things you’ve never even used at home – because you never know when you might need them.
Yea, we all know that it sucks when babies cry, but when they cry at home you just get on with it. You shush them and soothe them and eventually get them to stop. But when you’re on holiday crying babies are a million times worse.
You’re hyper aware that everyone else is on holiday and trying to relax and enjoy themselves. When you’re on the plane you think everyone is hating you. When you’re in your hotel you think your neighbours can hear you.
So you get all stressed and try and shush your baby faster – which obviously doesn’t work because they pick up on your stress and cry even more.
It’s a stressful situation all round.
Evening meals are….difficult
Difficult might be putting it mildly. I know some babies will sleep soundly in their pushchairs if you go out for an evening meal. They don’t disturb anyone and you can happily go to any restaurant because you’re confident your perfect child will sleep through your meal.
I don’t have one of these children.
I have a baby who gets to 6.30pm and needs to go immediately to his cot or he will dissolve into a fit of uncontrollable tears. This is fabulous at home as he’s always asleep by 6.31pm. It’s not so fabulous when you want to go out for dinner.
It means ridiculously early dinners or room service are the only options.
Flights will never be the same again
There was a time when I actually enjoyed long haul flights. Admittedly, this time feels like a lifetime ago. I’d get some work done, read a book, have a few G&Ts, watch a few films and have a guilt-free daytime nap. Ahh, it was bliss. These days, not so much.
I hear people talk about babies that fall asleep on flights and babies who sit on their parent’s laps for hours on end and cheerfully watch the latest movie releases.
Unfortunately, the majority of babies don’t do this.
I have one of those babies who spends the majority of the flight tearing up the inflight magazine, licking the window, staring at strangers for an uncomfortably long time, playing peekaboo with anyone who makes eye contact with him and finally crying himself to sleep while I apologize to everyone around us.
The ‘ugly’ things when travelling with babies are the things that happen on rare occasions. It’s unlikely they’ll ever happen when you’re on holiday, but when you do things get pretty ugly pretty quickly.
When you’ve paid a lot of money to go on holiday, the last thing you want to do is be imprisoned in your hotel room with a sick baby. Sick babies are the worst. They don’t know what they want or how to get it so they cry and cry and cry and there’s nothing you can do to make it better. And then they sleep and sleep and sleep so you can’t really do anything. And then they cry and puke and poop and cry and sleep some more.
Luckily, George has never been ill while we’ve been on holiday but he started coming down with a sickness bug on our flight back from the Maldives. It was the first time he’d been ill and we didn’t know why he was so unsettled. He’d sleep for half an hour before waking up and crying softly until he fell back to sleep. He wouldn’t eat and didn’t want any of his favourite toys. We just didn’t know what to do.
That’s the only ugly thing really and is something that can’t be helped. You can’t put your life on hold because there’s a slight chance your child will be ill. You just have to get on with it and hope for the best!
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